Parents should pay attention to junior secondary children's issues the same color _ Qing Qing.

Q: junior parents should pay attention to what? .A: Your child entered junior high school, which means that they have been or are about to enter puberty. .This is a person from childishness to maturity, from dependence to independence, from family to society and to gradually adapt to the society an important stage. .Can be said that this period is the most parents worry about their children, worried and vexed. .Most of the time in the person's life, the physical and psychological growth rate is consistent, and therefore the individual mind and body can be in a balanced and harmonious state. .Adolescence is a very special life course of a period of very rapid physical development during the 2-3-year growth and development of all aspects of the body to reach maturity level and psychological development is relatively slow, psychological level is still in the semi-mature state of semi-naive ., so that middle school students in mind and body to a non-equilibrium state, is apt to cause a variety of psychological conflicts. .Therefore, the child is very important to adolescent education, but also a higher demand from parents. As parents we have to adapt to the child's physical and psychological growth, from the educational methods, attitudes, expectations and other aspects of adjustment time. .1. To respect the independence of the child, take the child as a complete, independent individuals to treat their children a certain "psychological space." .Adolescent children will not toe as little as their parents. .Parents should respect the views of the child's right, something to discuss with them and gradually give them more independent right, of course, they also put forward higher requirements. .But one thing to remember: There are certain things parents "absolutely right", equality is only relative, let the child know not violate the principles and impassable boundaries. .2. Learn to understand and listen to children's inner needs, understand your child as much as possible. .Bow lower body to actively listen to children represent the love and respect their parents, the children of course, willing to listen to your views. .Listen to analyze problems can help children, the children gradually clear in the talk of their problems, and finally to find a constructive solution, so that children gradually learn independence, responsibility and independence. .Sometimes children do not necessarily solve the problem, but because some people accept, understand him, so he can eliminate uncertainty and anxiety. .Of course, sometimes the views of junior high school children to determine the most likely against the mainstream culture and even absurd. .As a parent may object, but to tell the child you understand his ideas, understand his feelings. .3. To establish relations of friendship and trust to avoid conflicts with their children. Junior secondary children are impulsive emotions, communication with children, sometimes the way words are inappropriate or outperform, causing the child to rebel and cause resentment .and impede communication. .Therefore, education should be taken to ease the way to the child, the child to the feelings and thoughts about it. If the language conflict occurs, parents must be calm, appropriate way to take the initiative can be taken immediately to stop debate, to be calm both sides, the effect will come back to enlighten children .much better. .4. Timely sex education for kids and guide their children appropriately with the opposite sex of the child gradually mature is a clear sign of puberty. If not fully prepared in advance, children will be tremendous changes in the physical nervous ., confused. .At the right time, to take appropriate way for children to learn some knowledge is necessary. .During this period, the children began to increase gender awareness, hope and eager to get to know the opposite sex opposite sex friendship, it is normal for a psychological phenomenon, but also a manifestation of child development. .Parents need not be too sensitive to this fear, not to hastily labeled "puppy love" tag. We have to acknowledge the legitimacy of the opposite sex secondary school students, the creation of normal exchanges of time and space, to encourage children to participate in various group activities, as far as possible .ensure that children and enrich the spiritual world of the rich. In this way, children can very peace with the opposite sex contacts, the results will not be afraid of their parents. .Should not only care about their children's academic achievement, and living a more needs to be concerned about the child's heart and character, behavior training, to provide the required environment for the growth and meet their needs, to gain more strength and confidence. Junior .Health is the most difficult when the parents, let us learn and grow together with their children!.